Perception is Projection: How Others Reflect Your Inner World

People are mirrors, reflecting aspects of ourselves back at us. This concept, introduced by Carl Jung, is known as “perception is projection.” What this means is that how we perceive others actually says more about us than it does about them.

We can't perceive anything outside of ourselves that isn't somehow connected to us. Our perception is subjective and, often, unreliable because it's shaped by unconscious processes.

More often than not, we make assumptions about others based on our own internal filters, and then we project our own traits and feelings onto them.

This happens with both the negative and the positive qualities we see in others. So, when we get annoyed with someone, it’s possible we’re actually just annoyed with ourselves. When we appreciate something about someone, it’s often because we admire that same trait in ourselves.

The key here isn’t about blaming ourselves when someone triggers us, but about using those moments to increase our self-awareness and seize an opportunity to grow and help us break out of unhealthy relational dynamics. When we become conscious of our perceptions, we can challenge them and understand what they’re trying to teach us. The next time you feel triggered, try approaching the person or situation with curiosity instead of judgment.

Ask yourself, "What can I learn about myself from this, and how can I reduce the emotional impact of it?"

Let’s say you’re in a conversation with someone, and you find yourself getting frustrated by their behavior. Maybe they’re speaking in a way that feels dismissive or not fully engaged. Instead of just focusing on their actions, take a step back and, without judgment, ask yourself: Why is this bothering me so much?

What is it about their behavior that triggers something in you? Often, it’s not about the other person at all, it’s about something in yourself that’s being reflected back. Maybe you’ve had trouble feeling heard or valued in the past, and their words are bringing that up for you. When we feel triggered, it’s an opportunity to explore what we need to heal within ourselves.

Recognizing this can shift your perspective from frustration to curiosity, helping you understand what the situation is teaching you about your own needs and vulnerabilities.

Remember, this perspective is about looking inward, not outward. It’s about staying in control of your own responses and recognizing that perception is projection on both sides. People have their own lessons to learn too, but you’re only in charge of your responses.

Imagine how freeing it would feel to respond less emotionally and instead, see the situation as a learning opportunity. People and situations are mirrors and the more we lean into this concept in our daily lives, the more we grow into the highest version of ourselves.

If you’re ready to dive deeper into how your perceptions are shaping your experiences, and learn how to use this powerful awareness to transform your life, I’d love to help.

Book a Discovery Call, and we’ll explore how the concept of perception is projection plays out in your own journey and uncover the areas where you can create more balance and self-awareness.